Love is Always the Answer – Big Fat Love!

I have been intending to write a blog about love for a while and wasn’t sure exactly how to start. Last week, I talked about Kurt Cobain and his suicide and suicide awareness, if you or someone you know needs help please consider reading the blog or sending it along.

This week I want to talk about John Prine, who passed away from complications related to the Corona virus last Tuesday. John Prine comes to mind when thinking about love, not only because his music has been shared among my family for years but because I received one of the most heartfelt compliments in the form of his song, Big Fat love. I heard it the first time when my brother took me on a road trip and as we listened to it he said to me, “this song is about you”. As I listened to the lyrics tears welled up in my eyes.

As panic and fear rise I find myself reluctant to read through my facebook feed. I am not interested in watching television of any sort anymore but I am now really dreading the news. In fact I haven’t watched the news voluntarily in probably 10 years. I will read relevant articles and listen to NPR. It’s always the people I love that come to me with updates. My dad gives me an update every morning.

I find myself drawn to meditate for hours. I usually meditate for 2 hours a day and now I am meditating for an average of 4 hours a day. I believe that meditation is one of the most helpful things that I can do in this time, other than remaining in my home. Meditation benefits the individual who practices in many ways but also these benefits can be shared with beings far and wide. I am also sharing uplifting posts when I do get on social media. As a highly spiritual individual it is a default setting for me to go positive and encourage rational and calm behavior.

What Is Love by Haddaway from 1992 proposes a question to which I may now truly know the answer. Love is not just a feeling, but a state of being, a frequency which can be shared without discrimination. Love is the most pure form of acceptance caring and understanding any being can share with another. Although love may be readily associated with relations of family or lover it should not be limited by these terms.

Love is the opposite of fear. Love can unite all beings as a language of its own. No words need to be spoken between an infant and their mother for love to be present, and the absence of that love has been shown to lead to death. The language of love can be shared with one look, one touch, one gesture. The love languages describe different forms of sharing our love with others. You may identify with one or more, you may find that you communicate love more easily using one of the love languages.

Self Love is the origin of love. By completely accepting and loving yourself, you are then free to share love with others. The more you love yourself, the more love you can share. By tapping into this well of love you also make love available to those around you. Please start with self love! I love you!